A few weeks later he said he was interested in me if I was still interested in him! Im a senior in high school and he is a freshman in college. How can I work with himPlease help me. Heres how to do it: https://howtogetaguytowantyou.com/60-day-no-contact-rule/. He said that he just felt bad for not giving me the time I deserve. Im not going to see him till next month, Im worried he might move on. At first he said that he was still resentful over my lack of commitment. I need an advice. He agreed for dinner the next night he was genuinely excited about it and then he said he had to reschedule okay so we rescheduled he kept standing me up and did for a couple of weeks when I said what was going on he said he couldnt see it working because I didnt give him enough space we agreed to meet up in a few days and talk well his uncle died and we didnt meet up so a few days after that we met up and he said it wasnt because of the space thing he said it was because I let my stress out on him too much well he agreed to come over the next day and he said the stress thing really bothered him and he was scared to get hurt again.. Now let me say I know I am not the nicest person and I do let my stress out on him but not as bad as he makes it seem I had been very moody for about a month but never once have I been mean to him called him names I actually always complimented him at least a few times a day I made a point to because I love him so much I want to support him and make him feel great and be the person I know he can be. And he said he hated me from that moment and will neber miss me. So i did the no contact thing for a year although we saw each other one a week. My boyfriend & I had been dating for 3 years. Initially he was veey rude to me and for the whole time of one month when i was chasing and begging him he kept telling me how he didnt love me anymore and i should leave him alone and move on cus he has moved on. The problem with texting is that you have to do it the right way, or it can ruin everything. Thanks Lisa, then it may also mean that i will loose him.. though i know i want to bring him back.. hello! Its been 2 months and although we see each other a few times a week at work we usually ignore each other sometimes we say hi. I would like to help but I didnt understand why you stopped talking/chatting in the first place, I didnthe stopped talking he deleted all his accounts from social sites nd I was helpless in that situation, Hi Lisa, Im no expert, its just what I would do. It will drive him absolutely crazy! I am giving him space right now.. Ive been dating my boyfriend for 4 years, living together. I can say that I was very much prideful and didnt treat him how I should have. We are both currently at uni very close to each other but he is on a placement so this year he is over an hour away from me, but this didnt change anything. Then I asked him what was one the main reasons why he fell in love with me and he said your determination and its exactly what youre doing right now. Many of friends believe its a total BS that he left me like that because we always seemed happy. We were limitted that way but still had a great laugh, fun and love. Focus on healing your depression. Then he called me the other day but I didnt answer him. I faced him and admitted he met her few months just few months after he broke up with me. But whenever he did have time we would always argue about how busy he is. I don't understand anything on there. he said the night we broke up he cried as he drove home and spent his whole night in bed crying due to guilt and empathy for how badly he hurt me. My story is probably the weirdest of of all. Now its even more clear to me that he is not sure about this breakup and that he still loves you. He'll also feel kind of foolish. Theres nothing more attractive than a woman that really loves herself. I wouldnt try to convince him to come back. I know how hard it is when you cant get your ex-boyfriend to answer your calls or reply to your text messages. I said yes because I always liked him . He messages me and ask what do i need and i reply and said it was an accident. He is afraid of being alone with his thoughts. I mean what is going on in his head. I know it sounds crazy, but I think that the more you let him go and allow him to live the life, the more chances hell calm down and realize he wants his family. Hello, I just been confused lately about my ex and I have no idea if I should keep fighting for him or move on with my life. At this point I feel like he hates me may not even love me. After meeting me 2 days later he started avoiding me. I asked him to talk to me so I could have closure after two weeks and he told me that he didnt want me to think he was leading me on. He contacted me the otother day requesting to talk to his son of which i told him am not with him. The 1st 2 hours was good and we were fine. If you got back together with him you need to get out and read All the books by Patricia Evans and Lundy Bancroft. HE walked away but I pulled him to hug him. He took that as I didnt trust him and that was the final argument we had, a few sentences later he broke up with me over Facebook. Then i checked this page and found you mentioned if i dont contcat him for one week, then i can text him this Hey _____, I just want to let you know that Im 100% cool with the breakup and I thought that it was a good idea. When he went he stood with his cousin. I was so devastated and angry. I want him back in my life but he told me that he has been talking to someone for a couple days so what do I do to win him back. The best way to show him what he's missing is to focus on yourself, not him. Congratulations. I messed up so bad.. He wanted to be friends but I just couldnt take that so I told him I couldnt be friends with him. I dont answer and he says So, youre going to ignore me. and we werent in touch at all after that. I am really confused I know he enjoys my company and loves the sex. I have a brain tumor and it has taken away so much from me. Use this time to reflect on the experience, gain perspective, and regain your emotional balance. This first text is powerful because it conveys all the right messages. Method 1. He never even tried to contact me . A few days ago my boyfriend of over a year broke up with me. From this moment on, you stop texting and calling him (until you learn how to do it right Ill get to that in a second). He told me he loved me very much. Things in my and my boyfriends relationship were going great until summer break started, we both never got the time for each other and he was always busy. our problem was compatibility issues. Last year in July, he broke up with me because of a possible misunderstanding(still not cleared out) and weve been friends ever since. But I think that by continuing to be friends and talk all the time and hang out, he is getting almost everything from me, so he has no motivation to change the situation. Will he miss us and wanna come home? but i dont know why but he seems really happy! I know its tough. I think that he can sense that you feel a bit insecure or not so self-confident and unknowingly this drives him away from you. To get a guy to regret leaving you, you must limit the damage already done, amplify the traits he loved about you, and then cut him off from them completely. i didnt tell him about my past.CZ it was a childish emotion. Later I realized that I liked him so much that I had to tell him. Im extent hurt and feel he is going through mid life crisis. Lets get to today's game plan. It seems like he decided to not give your relationship a chance, for who knows which reasons. This came out of no where. I feel you. He said he s no longer interested with me nor my child. As for your question on getting back to where you were? Everything else was so incredibly perfect in the relationship and we were best friends. He said I deserved better. All I want to do is call him or text him. When school started again and we found out we had a class together we would text and Snapchat every day all day. Cheer up. All he said was that he stop and that there was no spark. I just dont understand I think he has feelings more than hes willing to admit. Most of the arguments were about the same thing: I felt like he wasnt respecting my time. We went about our lives enjoying life found out I was having a boy n he was extatic. And 2 days before he broke up with me we were looking at houses and baby clothes. If you regain your confidence for real, not just for appearances, he too (like everyone else) will feel it. The moment you cut off communication, it will feel as if you have cut off his leg. i just have his sisters on some of my social media. now please tell me what should I do? Havent heard anything from him now since. I would find myself apologizing for things I knew I didnt do. Shes still in high school though. saturday he broke up with me. We still see each other like once a week, but I need to muster the strength to no longer have constant contact with him because I think Ill just end up getting hurt. The father of my child broke up with me when our son was only 4 months old.his now nine months old. I would refuse to be his friend (without anger, just calm and rational) and start the no contact period. I was away for a week and when I came back to work he had a new gf -someone from his past. Hes been really sick for the past month and on different medications and he would tell me that he wasnt feeling well or he couldnt hang out because he had other things to do. And thanks for replying me. Youre sub-communicating to him that you are wanted by other men. I would write back that Im happy to receive his email and that Im taking his words into consideration and thinking about things, and that you respect his point of view and really thinking about it. these days in a group he is talking about one girl he likes. I hope this helps and I wish you the best. The next day. Focus on yourself. I can tell. If he already feels like crap for hurting you, you get the reward without any work. Good luck! HE took the keys back to his apartment and helped me carry all my things to my car. Ive decided not to respond because of no contact but feel terrible not saying anything because I know he is just emotional. We decided to just be friends but my feelings are still here. He liked some other girl while he was still with me and the girl liked him too but he never told her that he reciprocated her feelings. What if it gives him perspective and aloow him some space to think and see how much he loves you? He says he really cares about me but doesnt see it working our girls fight. If you want to ex to regret leaving, this is one thing you should do. Focus on healing yourself and your life. We were only together two months so it wasnt long. Because when he's thinking about you, he'll want to talk to you. The vast majority of abortions occur during the first trimester of a pregnancy. This hurts me so much. He wont talk or see me. But I dont know how to do things. He calls and then. Guys need the chase, the other way around usually doesnt work, unfortunately. Note: we dated for 2 years and 6 months. Does he need more space? and its just one month since our break up! His mother and family are also ashamed at what he did. im purely devastated. 3. We have not yet communicated again. But hes the first guy in at least two years that I actually trusted which I think is why it hurts so bad. This time I dont have much to add: I completely agree with you, and I think your intuition is right. He wanted to go first then me and the girls after. So you have to really mean it. I cried for days and he wouldnt return my texts or calls. We were the happiest living together and everything. I dont mind trying the any contact rule, but how do I even begin this process, if he lives so far away from me now? But what i did last time, calling him and crying a little bit reminding our good memories to him and how much I loved him..but i didnt beg for his coming back. I know this isnt what I deserve but its hard to convince myself. Emily, So i fell in love with a guy and we were almost together for a year but then he dumped me. I wish I could help more but I didnt really understand what happenedhe got mad at you because you snooped in his phone without permission? I dated another, once, in this period and he got jealous. Due to the fact we had a lot going wrong way in our lives ( nothing wrong with us together just work,friend familly issue, money) we couldnt allow our self to enjoy fully our social live. He even told a mutual friend after the breakup he can see himself with me for the rest of his life. Helping women across the world uncover the male mind, its quirks and what they can do to lock their men in. I dont know if I personally could trust him again after acting the way he did. This guy left you over something so stupid, its more like he was looking for a way to get out of it. We chatted and slowly got to know each other at work after 5 months, I eventually admitted I liked him to a coworker and she immediately confirmed that he liked me back. Im planning to do NC on him but I dont if it will work. I did lose a lot of trust in him and my faith in him in the relationship did start to lack towards the end. Dating and relationship blogger. During the summer he left work, and I messaged him to see if we could stay in contact as friends or more if he wanted (I wasnt sure if he still had a gf or not, turns out he did). This is only pushing him further away from you, and into the arms of another girl. I want him to see potential in me & actually give me a chance.. On friday i decided to give him some space and spend nights at my mate house. Hey guys, so my situation is long and complicated. Mostly just asking how I am. Is this possible? There was no argument between us that day be both cried and he gave me hug etc. We decided to spare him the suffering and interrupted the pregnancy at 22 weeks. Anyway its because we didnt see each other enough. He refused to come back home because his pride was bigger than failure. I did question why he couldnt hang out with me. Im just asking if its possible. After saying I dont know a couple more times, he finally said, No. Then I asked him if he even had feelings for me, and he said, No. When I asked him when they stopped, he said about a month ago after we went to Chicago. Hes the one that rejected me, I felt like his using me for his benefits and now hes mad. You will get nothing in return. I am bot texting him but he does text to check on our son and told me he has a job and will send me money. And does he have a girlfriend at this point? So, if you want to make a guy regret the day he let you walk out the door, find someone better and rub it in his face. He asks my friends how i am doing. I cant no contact him odviously we have a small child. Never change. We stared talking and become good friends. He said he dont want me anymore that he dont know if he gonna miss me. He gave everything back, but kept the things i bought him throughout the years. I was working enough hours to pay my bills and thought it was going to be fine. I just want him to suffer and be sorry. When he was breaking up with me, he was crying so hard I know this is just as difficult for him as it is for me. The only thing to decide is whether you accept him the way he is or not. . He found a job, which is what he really wanted to do (and felt like he couldnt do while you were living together), and once he sees and feels that you love him (when you communicate with him in a friendly manner), I believe hell come back. On Sunday, Dec 17, 2017 my boyfriend broke up with me. Im seriously depressed. It hurts cause it is very recent but I hope Ill realize that he wasnt all the great of a friend to me like I was to him. Today I asked him if he liked me and he said yes. He would text me goodmorning and goodnight daily and mention many past memories together including pictures and videos. I guess I didnt realize he would actually leave me. During the first half of that relationship, he and I were still talking and on good terms and during the second half (once I knew about it) we didnt talk at all. And around a month after that he started flirting with me again and I didnt really want to break up in the first place so I eagerly took him back. So that I can share my sufferrings with u . Any of your thoughts would be so helpful! I know he only wants to see me happy and that I dont need just him in my life to make me happy and that I can be independent and happy with myself. Please any advice will help! Consider trying the 60-day no contact rule, which may work wonderfully in your situation. I still have feelings for him and miss talking to him. A few days after the breakup he started going on dates with other girls. Is it over? After the first time he broke up with me he came back and promised he wouldnt leave me again, but he did. Like in about 15 days we got super attached and talk for hours and hours. I would ask him to hang out and have dinner with my family, and he would say that hes be coming over (Id tell my parents to cook for 5 instead of 4), but hed cancel. so my boyfriend of 2.5 years dumped me through text while I was sleeping. But, I have to say that seeing him once a week is not exactly going no-contact. I have an ego problem and i dont start a conversation. So I dont know if anyone is still on here. Heres my post about it and I hope it helps: https://howtogetaguytowantyou.com/60-day-no-contact-rule/, Hi there. Can I have some advice? You have problems letting go because you have decided, like you wrote, that I found true love at 20 and it turned out not to be true. im sorry if this is long and pathetic. This one is powerful because he will suddenly realize that he is losing you, for good. i agreed and i got back with him If you are meant to be together, you will be. He annoyingly accepted but after talking for five minutes he hung up. I asked him, Do you think its possible for you to ever love me? And he said, I dont know. Then I said, Well Im not asking for a commitment. Hes been going out and even took a weekend vac to FL. 7. Theyre not nice to be around. He said he had challenges with work etc. The best thing you can do for him is ignore him completely if you really want him to regret leaving you. I have always loved him and always felt his love in the way he treated me(sometimes lol). If you really love him, you wouldnt want to change him. I sacrificed a lot to be with him and there were times where his job would stress him out for a couple of months and I just let it fall cause I knew he loved me. Please help. And I told him that J really loke him and will miss him so much and even though he refuses to touch me I kissed him on his forehead and went to my home. I was a total asshole to her after my dad died 5 years ago and didnt show her my love. Its not easy because my first instincts tell me to text him how much I miss him and want him back.. It will open your eyes and save you. To all the people who shared their stories here have you moved on? Otherwise obviously he wont understand whats going on. We crossed all stages by then. Its crazy Im a therapist I can help others but cant use it on my own self. After sharing your deepest fears with him.
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