It keeps the party going, but its also another social experiment. Here they are prior to the Opening Ceremonies on July 25, 1992, at Estadi Olimpic de Montjuic in Barcelona, Spain. Lindy and Frasher started dating, and he picked up that the safest way to address Krzyzewski is by Coach. Not K, which his daughters hate, and never Mike. Frasher also learned about Krzyzewskis ruthless intensity and self-punishment following a loss. "Mike's ability to take risks has helped him, and it was risky, at the time, to include us like he did," she says. How do you take a group of people like that and say, 'Some of you are actually better than others? Eventually he started talking like old warriors talk. West Point had a huge impact on me because it put me in positions to fail, so I got comfortable with failure being a part of success. He was finally done with Coach Knight.. But first, he wanted to phone Krzyzewski and let him know. "Leadership is trying to get them to buy into a team concept, and that's what Mike does so well. "Absolutely," Frasher says. "He told us freshmen to stop playing passive and to play with an attacking style," Greg Paulus, a first-year point guard, told me. "Mostly, I've been in a male world," he said. Being a salesman is part of the job, and he should get credit for that.". A few years ago, when a player was feeling sorry for himself, Krzyzewski ended practice and invited players, coaches and support staff to midcourt so everyone could have an actual pity party. The deep relationships forged with well-behaved, diploma-earning hoopsters. Krzyzewski (pronounced sha-SHEF-ski) has been doing about 30 corporate speaking gigs a year for about $50,000 a pop. And thats just a sad-looking tree.. They're at the Yongsan Army Base Seoul, South Korea. I said to him once, 'You may be better at what you do than anybody I know is at what they do."'. One time he told his oldest daughter, Debbie, that she could have a boy to the house on one condition: He wasnt allowed to sit on the familys furniture. His speech was titled "Victory Through Teamwork and Leadership,$(2$) and he segued into the substance of it by telling a story about his experience as an assistant coach of the 1992 United States Olympic basketball team, the so-called Dream Team. And so I played that game with them: Still got the god---- Weeper, huh? He also retires with a personal winning record against the Tar Heels at 50-48, and with a victory total of 1,202 including 101 in the NCAA Tournament that no man will ever match. ("Joe Torre's Ground Rules for Winners," Rick Pitino's "Lead to Succeed," Pat Croce's "Lead or Get Off the Pot!," Donald T. Phillips's "Lincoln on Leadership.") 2 transfer Max Abmas commits to Texas, LOOK: Unfamiliar photos of Mike Krzyzewski through the years, Five-star prospect Holland decommits from Texas, Longhorns add former Oral Roberts star Max Abmas, Bryant, No. Jamie was caught in the middle of this, essentially two rams clashing over a tree nobody liked. They were future C.E.O. Former Duke Blue Devils basketball star Paolo Banchero won the NBAs Rookie of the Year award. We couldn't be hysterical or whatever those stereotypes of women are. Krzyzewski explained his method for getting such points across. Krzyzewski Dennis Rodmans daughter Trinity signs the richest deal in NWSL history, 7 things you didnt know about Michael Jordans wife: Yvette Prieto. ", What I said to Krzyzewski, precisely, was: "You know what, you manage like a girl, basically." I'll say, 'There's nothing wrong with him.' The best insights from the ultimate insiders, 2023 NYP Holdings, Inc. 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(USATSI). Duke Blue Devils coach Mike Krzyzewski isn't who you For instance, the family will be able to celebrate Krzyzewskis birthday, which falls on Feb. 17 and therefore during the heart of the ACC schedule. "Let me introduce a great surgeon to you," he said, before adding, in jest, "He screwed up my ankle, so then he started doing knees." (USATSI), The sneaker look -- for Coaches vs. Cancer awareness -- is a good one. For years, Mike Krzyzewski, the legendary Coach K, has been pounding your team, my team and every other damn team in America, but here he is saying that he's not, really, all about basketball. If money is your only passion, good luck and God love you.". The relationship between Bob Knight and Mike Krzyzewski began as one between teacher and student. After Krzyzewski and his wife, Mickie, had left for the airport, Steve Vacendak, who was then the No. (USATSI), Krzyzewski is greeted by adorers after walking off the court and winning the 2011 ACC tourney. 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In addition, Duke Corporate Education, which consults to businesses, has developed a program that uses Krzyzewski's methods as a teaching tool. They're all good. 13-ranked Morikawa joins the field for PGAs Wells Fargo Championship. Coach K will have plenty to do at Duke even after his coaching days end. John Feinstein: Mike Krzyzewski made college basketball history by never making excuses. We had to add something that was valid.". It was that bad.. He laughed and, somewhat to my relief, agreed. The Duke coach counts several corporate titans among his close friends. Krzyzewski's toughness and his wisecracking, just-one-of-the-boys manner are certainly part of his leadership style. The announcers praised Redick's deadeye shooting but seemed most impressed by his energy. Alarie, now a venture capitalist, played five years in the N.B.A. You could certainly break a kid like that by giving him more than he could handle, but it would not be easy. And the woman on the far right is manager Liz Cozart. Krzyzewski's teams turn a yearly profit for Duke. Way-too-early top 25: Kentucky, North Carolina, Houston, Gonzaga, Arkansas and Duke should be in the mix again next season. 2004-2023 CBS Interactive. And at the same time, he had strengthened the Krzyzewski brand -- the Winning With Virtue brand. They later told him to accept the free education being offered because they didn't have the money to buy him one. But the girls and I had to live up to it. For starters, he coaches the way a woman would. They don't just look at the action or the result. ", Sim Sitkin, the faculty director of Duke's Fuqua/Coach K Center of Leadership & Ethics, is Krzyzewski's mentor at the business school and, to some extent, his student. Coach K sees destiny denied as Duke loss sends him to And she says, 'O.K., but there is.' Michael Sokolove is a contributing writer for The New York Times Magazine. Daughters Debbie and Lindy were born prior to Coach K coming to Duke while their LOOK: Unfamiliar photos of Mike Krzyzewski through the years Frasher made his call, got his future father-in-laws blessing, celebrated and began planning with Lindy. And soon to become, in marketing terms, "the Michael Jordan of college coaches," according to his agent, David Falk (who is, yes, Jordan's agent). What an incredible journey it was. Krzyzewski joined Duke as head coach in 1980 with his wife and three young daughters in tow, a quintet he, according to his grandson Michael Savarino, lovingly It was calculated, but when you're in the moment, it doesn't come across as that. He visited him at Fort Sill and interrogated Chriss commander about his son-in-laws safety. And there are surely higher callings than keeping watch over pampered college athletes. Her dad coaches young men and happens to be an expert in manipulating their emotions. The indifference grew into a more impassioned, We put that thing in the ground; were planting our roots here, she says. He had been in the water before -- Lake Michigan -- but only up to his waist. All good West Point men know how it goes. Debbie works on Dukes faculty as assistant director of athletics, Lindy works as a staff counsellor at Duke and works with the basketball team, and Jamie graduated from Duke University in English and is an author. His older brother, Bill (his only sibling), went into the city's fire department and retired after attaining the rank of captain. Coach K celebrates after winning against Miami in 2013. He wrote that you should remember how you (expletive) got your job, said one prominent friend of both men., OConnor wrote that Krzyzewski had tears in his eyes and sure did not look like a man who had just advanced to the national championship game for a third straight year. What the manifesto demonstrates, mainly, is how satisfying it can be to hate success and, even more so, to hate success linked to virtue. Because what does Coach K actually want from this? Heres a look at the Krzyzewski family tree and its strong ties to Durham: Married in 1969 on the day he graduated from the U.S. Military Academy at West Point. To talk to one another. The attendees may, in their day-to-day lives, feel burdened by various pressures and perhaps even be cynical, but here they dress down in business casual, breathe in the mountain air and open themselves up to inspiration. Its Keith, the landscaper, and suddenly inspiration strikes. Growing up around basketball, it was only natural a few of the Krzyzewski daughters pursued a career in athletics at Duke University. Krzyzewski believes that even a practice should have a certain sound, by which he means he should hear his players communicating back and forth constantly. Krzyzewski thinks of prospective recruits as falling into one of four categories: high maintenance, medium maintenance, low maintenance and no maintenance. "It just knocked me back because there was stuff I had never been exposed to. The night before the call, Frasher watched as the Blue Devils blew a double-digit lead against Illinois, pleading with the basketball gods to let Duke survive. A successful corporation might be led by a straight-from-the-gut guy like Jack Welch, or a recede-into-the-background geek like Bill Gates, or a visionary like Steve Jobs. Steve Wiseman has covered Duke athletics since 2010 for the Durham Herald-Sun and Raleigh News & Observer. More broadly, Krzyzewski is accused of being a sanctimonious, self-satisfied hypocrite. Tipsy K can be sentimental and reminiscent, family members say, and these are sides of himself he rarely shows the public. (As at most N.C.A.A. This story was originally published November 7, 2021, 6:00 AM. In November 1999, Frasher and Lindy were dating, and he had bought an engagement ring and intended to propose. Known by many as the best college coach in basketball history, Coach K was named the head coach at Duke University in 1980. New gardening gloves? "When you have all these males around and all that intensity, it's nice to get a hug sometimes.". West Point, all boys. He issued a rant decorated with profanity, according to a subsequent New York Times story, and scatological and anatomical references.. And not simply good in an Al Davis "Just win, baby" kind of way. Shes worked with Dukes basketball team for more than a decade as a staff counselor and is currently dean of Durham Academys Upper School. ", The plowing and replowing of emotional terrain inside the Krzyzewski household is the sort of thing that might make some men thankful for the occasional out-of-town business trip. Lindy graduated from Wake Forest in 1999 with a psychology degree with minors in Spanish and theater. -- and last year accepted a second basketball job (he's staying at Duke) as the head coach of USA Basketball. Krzyzewski looks on during practice before the 2022 March Madness Final Four during his time with Duke. "I had coaches in the pros say things to me that were not that different from what I heard from Coach Krzyzewski," he says. There is an element of stealing your girlfriends' parents' liquor, and at the end of the day, you want to bring up the right stuff.. The books don't straight out tell male executives to be more like women, but that message is clear. As a former participant at Dukes basketball camp who has known Jamie since they were teenagers, Chris has been in the Krzyzewski orbit for years. One of the lessons is that the best shooter does not always get to take the shot; sometimes he has to pass the ball or set a screen. Surely not Mike, which virtually nobody calls him, so Mr. Krzyzewski? Krzyzewski nearly left Duke in 2004. Leadership guru. They have three adult children, all daughters, meaning that the Duke coach has long dwelled in a world of women. It shouldve died. And coaches do, of course, take lots of trips. I recently wrote a big story behind this photo and the two's relationship. On the other hand, perhaps this particular audience, which listened without a fork or a spoon clinking and without any low hum of conversation, needed to be reminded of this. Krzyzewski showed up. I turned down $40 million. A battle for respect, Chris Spatola says. Mack, of Morgan Stanley, is one, along with Steve Wynn, the Las Vegas casino magnate, and Schwartz at Bear Stearns. ", In the first few minutes of his speech, he joked about his appearance -- his big nose and overly large ears -- and noted that he is "not the best-looking guy in the world." WebMickie Krzyzewski is the wife of the NBA basketball team coach, Mike, and a philanthropist from Durham, North Carolina, and has been happily married for a whopping 52 years. Mike Krzyzewski was, now, to his admirers, his corporate acolytes and -- well, O.K., probably not to the author of the anti-Duke manifesto -- ever more worthy of admiration. At Duke games, after he gives his instructions during a timeout -- the classic command-and-control moment -- his players break away from him and form their own huddle. It wasn't even a contest. "There's an empathetic part of leadership, and this is where my wife and my daughters have had a huge impact on me," Krzyzewski says. Judy Rosener, an expert on gender differences in leadership who has written for the Harvard Business Review and other publications, told me that men and women respond to different signals. That was the start of it., Mikula told OConnor that Knight was sitting in a corner table with several former Army coaches when Krzyzewski went over to him and got down on a knee just to see him eye to eye, and everyone else kind of continued their conversations. They're like three teenage boys going down there, giggling and excited, Lindy says. He preferred to greet the strangers with an uncomfortably long stare. Knight is the most obvious influence on Krzyzewski's career and coaching methods, but by no means the most important; his wife has long been that. His wife has poured her considerable energy and intellect into his career. Hubert Daviss Tar Heels did manage to party on the court like it was New Years Eve. Mickie Krzyzewski How often do we see K doing it? That word -- relationship -- is one he uses frequently. By that time, I had been to combat. But as Krzyzewski took the reins at Duke and became a rising star in the coaching ranks, the tone gradually shifted. Throughout his career, there has been one woman by his side the entire time: his wife, Carol Mickie Marsh, otherwise known as Mickie Krzyzewski. Mickie Krzyzewski was raised in Alexandria, Va., and attended a small Southern Baptist college, but left before graduating. She actually went as far as to give her husband an ultimatumif he wanted to come home on what would prove to be his final day of coaching that season, he needed to skip practice and go to the doctor. Emily Krzyzewski was famous for her chocolate chip cookies, and Mlynski remembers the half-gallon of ice cream she served with every meal. Her family also is responsible for that jet-black hair. And that was precisely the problem, Krzyzewski explained, in the same excruciating detail as if he were correcting a freshmans mechanics on a jump shot. In Krzyzewski's office that day, a few minutes after he thrust his clawed hand toward my chest, I said to him that I had noticed something about his approach to leadership: despite the unquestioned authority he commands, his style, on balance, is more feminine than masculine. They are all celebrated as leaders. He thought he was getting fired. he asked. Coach K and Bobby Knight: A season on the bench, Your California Privacy Rights / Privacy Policy. Shes worked at Duke since 2002, currently as an assistant athletics director for special events and director of the basketball programs Legacy Fund. "They pick up on body language. This kind of thing has happened hundreds of times over the years.".
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